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Wednesday, June 27th, 2012
2:34 pm
Being gay is hard enough without all the political and religious riff raff. God made me very unique and I have to accept that fact. With this being said, I am working on becoming a minister and yes I am completely OUT! :-) I am part of a very loving church that supports me. If you have any questions about this feel free to ask.

Next topic, somehow I also ended up being a conservative pro-life lesbian Christian who's becoming a minister with a undergrad degree in biology and I believe in aspects of evolution. Wow, how about all that for a contradiction. I realize that I might not ever find people out there exactly like me. I am seeking friends that are willing to be friends with me regardless of my views :-). I'm very loving and supportive. I am seeking the same in friends!

Love ALL of you!!

Peace & Blessings!
Monday, November 14th, 2011
7:43 pm
An Invitation to Participate in a Study of Couples’ Sexual Activities; With Personalized Feedback!
Hi Everyone,

I'm a PhD student at the University of Rochester. I'm running an online study of the different sexual activities that couples who are either dating or married enjoy. If you're in a relationship, either dating, engaged, or married, I'd like to invite you and your partner to participate.
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Monday, March 30th, 2009
1:39 pm
Sundays of Solidarity
Between May 17 and June 28, 2009, groups of LGBT and allied people around the country will attend worship services at a church of their choice - a church that is not welcoming and affirming of openly LGBT members and guests. Each group will wear a lapel button that reads "gay? fine by me." For less formal churches we also have a t-shirt with this message. The lapel button (or t-shirt) serves as a conversation starter - opening dialogue with people in the church about faith, sexual orientation, and gender identity.

When that visible act of courage is paired with adequate training, then transforming hearts and minds becomes a bona fide possibility. That's why we've designed a three-part teleconference course and a resource webpage that covers the essentials of Nonviolent communication, Media talking points, and What both the Bible and science really say about homosexuality. Training teleconferences will be held on April 19, April 26, and May 3 at 4pm CST. To register for the trainings go to http://www.soulforce.org/moodle/login/index.php and enter your information.

We hope you will consider organizing a Sundays of Solidarity project in your area. It simply involves choosing a church in your area that could benefit from an SOS visit, using your contact list to recruit others to join you, attending the teleconference training sessions, and then organizing your group to take action on one of the Sundays between May 17 and June 28, 2009. To purchase a lapel button or t-shirt, please visit http://finebyme.org/sos.html.

Wednesday, January 28th, 2009
1:43 pm
Tuesday, February 27th, 2007
11:23 pm
Something general
Hey everyone!
I'm new to the whole live journal thing, so forgive me if I don't exactly follow format. Anyways, just had a thought to throw out there to the masses...One of the main arguments I deal with when talking to people who are against homosexual marriage is that two people of the same sex cannot get married because in the Bible it species that marriage is a union between a man and a women. Now, I find that I have difficulty with this argument because even though I am in a serious and committed relationship with another person, though we're not married yet, I myself am in big trouble because I am engaged in premarital sex. Not just that, I also had multiple sex partners before I entered the relationship I'm in now. Now, if I followed the same logic people have when making the argument against homosexual marriage, doesn't that mean I myself, should not be allowed to get married? Just wanted to know what you guys thought...
Monday, December 4th, 2006
2:28 am
Masturbation, Sexual purity & The Bible
hello1986 recently asked a series of questions about masturbation and whether it was less immoral to masturbate with or without a vibrator or to be groped etc. I was going to reply in the post itself, but I figured I’d share my answer here and perhaps turn it into more of a discussion.

Regarding masturbation let me throw myself out there and publicly state that I'm not holier than thou. I'm a 28 year-old "virgin till marriage" and sexually abstaining has been painfully hard. Our highly-sexed society, and the fact that this same society generally has us marrying one to two decades past puberty has made an intense battle of the struggle for sexual purity. Add to the equation significant others and the potential for immediate sexual intimacy, and one's natural urges turn into a mine-field of daily temptation. It's no wonder then that abstinent-by-choice teens and adults sometimes feel like clawing at their bedroom walls in frustration, and when faced with the choice to indulge in their desires, choose instead to "take matters into their own hands".

What are we to say of Christians and masturbation? It's the lesser of two evils? A good way to retain your virginity while relieving your sex drive? A chance to practice and get to know your own body? After all, the Bible doesn't mention masturbation. Nor does it mention oral sex, dry humping, mutual masturbation or groping outside marriage.

So what can we conclude by the Bible's silence on masturbation? That everything but Tab A into Slot B sexual intercourse is acceptable before marriage? So long as we can hold on to that elusive medical definition of virgin and our relationship can boast an intact hymen we can call ourselves chaste? Maybe not. After all no one would argue that because the Bible doesn't mention "drive-by-shootings" that doing so is acceptable. We would draw the likely conclusions by pointing to Biblical passages about life and murder that do teach us God's position about such things.

So what can we know about God's view of our sexuality that might help us answer the question of whether or not masturbation is Biblically acceptable, and by the same token groping and other sexual touches outside of marriage?

- First off, we can go back to the Bible’s first mention of sex, when Adam and Eve showed up and we were told that man and woman were to cleave together and become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
- We then see how highly God values marriage and how sacred he views the sexual union through the many Levitical rules and all throughout the old testament.
- Song of Solomon paints a picture of God's delight in the sexual union, and in the enjoyment that a husband and wife were to take in each other's bodies.
- Enter the new testament and we learn that Christ's relationship with us is one of purity. He desires a bride who is pure and chaste, reserved for Him and not in bed with the world. (2 Corinthians 11:2)
- Marriage is said to be a reflection of the union between Christ and His church, his bride. (Ephesians 5:21…)
- For this reason the sexual union is to be valued and the marriage bed kept pure. (Hebrews 13:4)
- Marriage is held in highest esteem and divorce/ the breaking of the union through adultery is hated by God (Malachi 2:16)
- Sex is to be reserved for marriage, the one-flesh Christ-Bride/ man-woman union, and any deviation from that is called “fornication”, “adultery”, “sexual idolatry”, and “sexual immorality”. The Bible calls us to avoid these, and fall under judgment for unrepented disobedience (1 Thessalonians 4:3, Galations 5:19, Hebrews 13:4, Revelation 21:8, 1 Corinthians 6:9 etc)
This much the Bible affirms and most Christians agree.

So where does masturbation fit into all this?

In The Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5:27-28, Jesus says the following:
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (emphasis added).

Whoah! Heavy stuff. If Jesus values the sacredness of the marital union so much that even fantasizing and thinking lustful thoughts about someone who is not our spouse, is on par with adultery and a violation of the marital union, how many of us are guilty of infidelity toward our future spouse? Few people can or do masturbate without fantasy and visual or mental stimulation.

But, you say, God made us to be able to enjoy sexual pleasure. Even 1 Timothy 5:11 and 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 acknowledge that unmarried people have natural desires, no?

Yes. We do have sexual bodies complete with natural sexual urges. And yet 1 Corinthians 6:13,18-20 reminds us as Christians that our bodies belong not to us for our own pleasure but to God first and foremost. God wants us to use our bodies to honour Him, not to please ourselves.
“13 ‘Food for the stomach and the stomach for food’—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.…18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”
…Surely we are not honouring the owner of our bodies when we lie in bed fantasizing our way through a non-marital sex act with the non-spouse in our head.

Furthermore, in 1 Corinthians Chapter 7, the apostle Paul describes marriage as a relationship of mutual giving - the wife gives her body to her husband for his pleasure, and he give his wife his body for hers. By default, in an ideal situation both should receive pleasure, but only because both partners have their spouse’s interests and pleasure in mind. In contrast, masturbation teaches us to be selfish. We learn to focus on our own body and learn to attain sexual pleasure entirely without our spouse. How can we then expect to simply transition into a union where it’s all about the other person’s sexual pleasure and not our own? How will we learn to not see our loved-one’s body as an elaborate sex toy that perhaps doesn’t even “work” as efficiently as our own hands or toys?

Ephesians 5:3
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." (emphasis added)

I don’t think God needs to explicitly say: “No extra-marital groping, no oral stimulation, no selfish or self-given orgasms” for us to get the message. “Not even a HINT of sexual immorality” doesn’t leave much room for much fooling around.

If you’re a Christian, your body belongs to God, and if you’re with someone who is not your spouse then they don’t belong to you either and “hands off” seems to be the appropriate protocol according to the Bible.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; "that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God;
Tuesday, November 14th, 2006
3:24 am
i am wondering what is the view of modern christians on using a vibe? i am a virgin and have tried masturbating a few times, read little tips pages and such and nothin works so i'm wondering what are they thoughts on vibrators? i don't know that masturbating is ok either in general but i figured if you are gonna masturbate anyway, does using a vibe make it any more sinful? also, on a comparative scale which is worse, using a vibe or letting your boyfriend feel up on your breasts?
Wednesday, July 26th, 2006
8:46 am
What does the community think of Nudism, or Naturism if you will? Is it a natural state that should be enjoyed at most times? Or is it an easily perverted state that is, by it's very nature, sexual.

I've never visited a naturist community, but it has me very curious. I understand there are christian naturist communities. What do you think?


Tuesday, June 20th, 2006
12:11 am

I believe homosexuality is wrong, a hell worthy offense in fact.  But I've struggled with it all my life, and have always felt very guilty and convicted about how much I enjoy it.   Whenever I try to rid myself from my homosexual affiliations I find it impossible to do.  It's a big part of what I like and who I am, most all my friends are homosexual, the fanfiction, manga, and literature I like all have at least some homosexual elements, characters, or references in them.  I've tried to deny that part of myself by not indulging in gay thoughts or literature, but so far my attempts to starve that out of me are in vain.  Is homosexuality wrong or is my guilt a product of my upbringing?

Tuesday, May 16th, 2006
10:23 pm
bringing spirituality into the bedroom
How can you get over it, that feeling of not wanting God to know what your doing in the bedroom? God obviously wants us to make love, and endorses what ever makes a couple feel comfortable. Yet how do you bring god into a lovemaking evening without feeling creepy.

I love to lite candles, burn incense and we have even prayed before sex. But praying before sex adds a spiritual side to it I'm just not comfortable with. And what happens when you pray to god that "all we do here tonight be pleasing" and then I can't get it up? What if we fail at lovemaking?

Maybe it's just the guilt associated with hiding it. Can't masturbate, it's evil (youth) can't have premarital sex it's evil. But suddenly, upon marriage, it's supposed to be a deeply spiritual connection between two people. Then why do I have to be quiet, and in the dark so the kids don't know?

I'm confused.

Current Mood: confused
Thursday, May 11th, 2006
2:02 pm
Masturbation (I just had to!)
Ok, so I heard a logic argument that went like this.

The definition of adultery is having sex with someone other than your marriage partner.

Masturbation is having sex with someone other than your marriage partner.

Therefore, masturbation is adultery.

the obvious logic problem is in the premises, not in the conclusion, for if the premise holds true, the logic is there. However, is the definition of adultery correct in this statement. I say no! Because the act of adultery, by definition, must include another human being, and therefore, this statement is false.

So why, then, does my wife feel such terrible guilt when doing it, or even when using a vibrator. She believes sex should be entirely natural. No toys, no ropes, no oils or costumes. She indulges my desires on occasion because she loves me, but she would much prefer to do it in the comfort of our bed, long after dark, and to use only the things that God has gifted us with. When she knows I have been masturbating she is very hurt and upset.

Well, I hope this starts some fun discussions here. Understand I enjoy many types of alternative sexual fun, but this main question seems to be our biggest stumbling block.

thanks, Peace


Current Mood: Oh Yeah!
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